Focus Outcome Not Process- One Minute with Jay

Focus on the outcome and not the process because the end result is what you are working for.

I hate running but love how I feel afterwards: lighter, faster, stronger, energetic. But I have to get over how I feel in my head.

I dread the sweat in my eyes, the pain I sometimes in my knees. But I keep going because I know and remind myself of what I am running for.

Your race is not over, focus on the outcome, remind yourself of the why behind starting your race.

-Jay

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Resumes that stand out- Pass the 30 Second Test- One Minute with Jay

 

Resumes that stand out typically pass a 30 second test. If you give your resume to an absolute stranger will they be able to figure out:

1. What type of job you are applying for?

2. What qualifications make you unique?

And the stranger has to be able to do this in 30 seconds or less. That’s about how long a recruiter or busy hiring manager will look at your resume.

Being an HR Manager myself and when we had to fill 10 to 15 entry level jobs I did not have the time to over analyze each sheet of paper.

I had to make quick decisions on whether to interview or not, while thumbing through sometimes hundreds of resumes.

And those were just the resumes that our ATS narrowed down. There is a technique for getting the ATS from passing over your qualifications as well.

Check out the video above and let me know if you have comments or how I can help you.

-Jay

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Trust in the timing of your life- One Minute with Jay

Trust in the timing of your life. Your life my not look like someone else’s.

Your path may not look like your friend’s path or your neighbor’s path.

We all have our individual road to travel and it’s okay if it takes longer. I am learning this in my own life while trying to have a child with my wife. We have been trying for close to a year now and nothing has happened.

The doctors can’t explain it, they just keep saying to keep trying. Frustration is setting in but I know my path may not be similar to anyone around me.

If I get caught up in how easy it has been for others then I will never receive my own bundle of joy.

In the same regard you may be trying to give birth to something wonderful. A new business, new idea, new way of living but the process may be slow.

I’m here to tell you that it is okay for the movement to be slow, as long as you do not give up on yourself.

Trust the timing in your life is perfect, even if late by your standards. Your baby will come when it is time. #trustintheprocess

-Jay

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Building self esteem tips- Part 1- One Minute with Jay

This will be the first of a short series on building self esteem tips.

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Okay now with that out of the way let’s talk. Self esteem is the emotional worth you place on yourself and if you do not deem yourself worthy (or worthless)then it is likely you are attracting worthless people/events into your life.

If you rated yourself on a scale of one to ten (ten being Madonna confident, one being you cannot even look in the mirror without criticizing yourself) where would you fall?

If you would rate yourself as a 5 or lower I believe that there is still some work to do.

The tip for today is to pick out one trait about yourself that you like. I don’t care if it’s only your beautiful elbows. Whatever it is begin to concentrate on what makes you attractive. What can you add to a relationship?

-Jay

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Dealing with a lack of motivation- One Minute with Jay

When dealing with a lack of motivation I prefer to increase physical activity.

I can’t tell you how many times I did not want to study, or complete homework especially as an adult working towards advanced degrees.

It’s tough. Currently, I fight staying on a healthy diet. I’m trying to limit my carbs….but boyyy sometimes double cheeseburgers ? start calling my name.

That’s why I exercise. Not to have an excuse to bury my face in glorious ground beef on toasted seasame buns but to combat my motivation droughts.

I learned that physical activity increases cognitive ability. So I can increase my concentration by taking a walk or jog or even hitting the dumbbells real quick.

The next time you feel unmotivated try to get moving and go back to whatever was the object of your procrastination.

 

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Define Delayed Gratification- One Minute with Jay

As we define delayed gratification I immediately think about reaching financial goals. Jim Rohn speaks about a fundamental difference between the wealthy and the not so wealthy.

What is it?

The ability to delay gratification.

This is a key because you cannot just get a fortune overnight, or have the perfect salary, or the perfect body (zero percent body fat, baby oiled glistening abs that you can bounce quarters off of. Maybe I’m only talking for myself :)) It takes time, it is a process and the wealthy learn to set long term goals.

The strategy is planning for the long game. What will it take to save 10K, 20K, 50K? You may say to me “But hold on I don’t make alot of money Jay. I don’t know what type of checks you get but I’m on a fixed income. I have bills.” I hear you. So do I. But if you take your goal and break it up over 5 years it may suddenly become more manageable and easier to save towards it each paycheck.

Delayed gratification isn’t a forever thing, it’s temporary, it’s a building process, it creates high tolerance and patience in the process, it qualifies you and gives staying power (because you had to work for it, you won’t give up as easily in tough times).

Jay

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Remove the obstacles- Use this- One Minute with Jay

Your creativity will be responsible to remove the obstacles you are facing.

This power called creativity flows through you all you have to do is tap in.

Now you may be thinking, “nooo I’m not even close to being creative. I’m not an artist, I can’t even draw stick figures man.”

But have you ever solved a problem that troubled you? I mean even a small one.

Of course you have! You solve problems everyday…that is creativity. And it will be this same resource, the same way of thinking that will remove whatever faces you.

You do not need to know how it will exactly happen, just know that it will through tapping into that imagination of yours.

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Control your anger emotions- One Minute with Jay

Control your anger emotions through 3 simple tips: Breathe deeply and exhale through your mouth.   2. Forgive yourself for your triggers. I have some quick triggers myself but instead of feeling bad about these things I just accept myself. (Then you move forward in …

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Failure leads success- One Minute with Jay

My biggest failure or at least one of my biggest failures is why I believe that failure leads success. A pain point of my life is the lack of role modeling or mentoring I gave my little brother.

While we grew up in the same household I set the best example that I could, going to work while in high school, running my own grass cutting business and spending time trying to teach him right from wrong.

I tried to be a father figure, stand in the gap but he resented my advice that I would give.

I went to college and had to hear how he escalated from graffiti to worse crimes, eventually disappearing for a year. Then we received a call, “the call.” “Are you willing to accept a call from___?”

He was in jail.

I spent so time studying, working on campus, internships.

I instantly felt like I failed my little brother.

I could have spent more time with him, even if he didn’t want to hear my mouth. I could have encouraged him more, been an ear to help keep him from the streets.

Mind you I was only a kid myself, with my own baggage but I could have done more. This regret in part fuels my desire to mentor. I learned that sometimes the people that don’t want to be mentored are the one’s that need it the most.

Part of mission is to reach as many people as possible & break their negative thinking. What failures have created your success or are creating your success?

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