From Bondage to Unbound
There are laws to reaping and sowing. Some are very obvious…like what you put in is what you get out. Meaning that if you put out positivity then it has to come back as something positive. If you help someone and do it out from …
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The role you play in your relationship or marriage should not be taken lightly.
I do want this to come across as sexist so let me be very clear. I do not believe in stereotypical roles such as the man has to manage the all the money because…well…he’s a man.
That’s ridiculous.
I know men that are horrible with their finances (uncles, one friend, and a acquaintance to be exact).
So what do they do?
They have spouses or hire someone to manage it for them.
If you are great at long term planning but the wifey is, then it’s probably best to let her manage that piece. If you are better at making sure the short term bills are paid then wifey should let you manage that.
If both of you suck at money management. Then you may need to enlist the help of a daily money manager. They help to pay bills, sort mail, create budgets and more. One that I found is called Fiscally Fit, they are based out of California. But I’m sure there are plenty more.
Find what works for your relationship for better financial health.
Read MoreDoes money matter in the relationship, relationships in general?
Yes it absolutely does. The number one cause of divorce do to some sort of financial problem. Sometimes the problem is a shortage of money, Sometimes divorce happens right after one spouse or if you can even imagine this both spouses get laid off at the same time.
If this makes you cringe then it’s time to talk to your helpmate.
Discuss the what if’s so you know where your partner stands. What do I mean? Will your partner stick by you if you lose your job and current lifestyle?
One of my ex girlfriend’s values were so out of wack we had to break up after my company was downsized.
She told me that getting laid off was my fault because I saw it coming and now she was upset. My guess is that she was angry that I couldn’t provide.
I admit, sometimes the writing is on the wall. Butttt I thought things would turn around if I worked harder.
Close but no cigar.
So that chapter had to come to an end.
The thing is I had no clue my girlfriend was so self-centered and did not care about me as a person or our relationship beyond my paycheck.
That’s why I definitely advocate for you to speak with your significant other as soon as possible when it comes to your financial values.
The last thing you want is to get into a pinch and realize after a few years that a piece of your relational foundation is unstable.
Read MoreEvery I statement you make in your life has meaning and future consequences. Why? Your words have so much power. Some I statement examples are:
I am beautiful.
I cannot do this.
I am dumb.
I am not qualified.
I am intelligent.
This morning my mantra was “Jay regardless of what your current situation or obstacle looks like, you can and will overcome it.” I believe that I am a conquer.
I tell myself things like this on a regular basis as reminder of what I have and can accomplish. I learned through a friend of mine that everything I place an “i” in front of is a construction for my life.
Your words are constructing everything that you are, everything that you do. So be extremely careful in what you are telling yourself because you just may believe it.
Read MoreThis video is near narrated by Eric Thomas and describes resilience vs resiliency so well. Check it out!
Anyone can be resilient once or twice in their lives. Anyone can have the ability to temporarily act as if nothing is wrong, when you have chaos around you.
Last year I had to give a presentation at 10:00 AM. I was prepped, energized and ready to go. Around 9:45 AM I receive a call.
My mentor had died. This was a man that served as a father figure and gave me the confidence to pursue becoming a speaker.
I hung up the phone, close my office door, cried for 15 minutes, dried my tears and then pushed forward.
I gave my presentation to a room of people who had no clue what I was going through or how devastated I felt. I gave it my all, my best.
That’s being resilient in the moment. Now to continue on word after multiple hits…… That something entirely different!
Multiple blows can affect your spirit. Decreasing it over time, to the point of depression. If you can avoid getting that low, you have resiliency.
You may just have the ability to do exactly what Eric Thomas said in the video…
FIGHT BACK.
DON’T STOP…..
EVER
Read MoreAs promised, here is a list of 10 excuses men make to avoid the doctor. Check out the list here. I found this list while researching my last post, Men Health Questions- When should I get a checkup? My personal favorite is number 5. Money …
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Read MoreThere are many health benefits of getting enough sleep. I hinted on how sleep can help you as well as tips on increasing happiness in my last post, you can check it here.
At different levels of sleep you will get different benefits. In the first level not much really happen besides eye twitching.
In the second level, your blood pressure drops and your heart rests which helps the cardiovascular system.
Later on you get the benefits of growth hormones being released and muscles being rebuilt. That means that if you are trying to get bigger biceps, traps, chesticles (aka chest muscles)…you gotta sleep. Also, for my ladies that are trying to lose weight or get cut, this is important for you too!
While we are on the subject of weight, sleep regulates your appetite. Ever stayed up too late and wanted to eat the house down or didn’t feel hungry at your normal time skipping breakfast maybe even lunch? This is due to a hiccup in your sleeping pattern.
Just something to think about!
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