Define Follow Through- One Minute with Jay

Define Follow Through When you tell yourself that you going to do something, like finally go to the gym this week and then push it off until you say: “Mmmhmmm, maybe next week. The weather will be better by then.” What you are really saying …

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The Law of Sacrifice- One Minute with Jay


The law of sacrifice states that something of lesser value must leave in order for something of greater value to take its place.

What is difficult is reassigning the value of a situation, circumstance or person in your life.

I have parted ways with many former friends in the past. Not because they were bad people but they were not working towards the same things I wanted.

When I was trying to save money to purchase a house, they were looking for the next party or the next girl to sleep with.

That was not a part of my lifestyle. So I had to let them go. Well I wanted to but they knew all about me: the schools I went to, my mom, my sister, my favorite food from childhood, and listened to the same music as me.

I couldn’t just cut them off, right? There is just too much history. They accept me for me.

So instead I focused more on the things I wanted out of life. Eventually my “friends” stopped calling me.

I couldn’t hang out everyday because I worked long hours, I couldn’t hangout on the weekends because I was saving.

A party wasn’t worth delaying my future.

What is sacrifice to you?

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Career Management Development


Career management development begins with adding value in very specific way.

Many of us trying to climb the proverbial success ladder think that we have to constantly compete. But it’s not about competition at all.

Fighting for your next promotion or a new job is all about being a complementary piece to your boss or team.

Oh, I recently spoke with a friend that told me he hates the word boss. So let me rephrase that: be a complementary piece to your manager, director, principal, team lead, or your actual team if you happen to be the manager.

Add value by helping them achieve their goals. Become accustomed to underpromising and over delivering (giving way more than expected, even when you feel like it won’t be reciprocated). This will only help you achieve yours in the process.

Once you prove that you are interested and able to help (by results people, the results are proof) then you can begin to further the conversation about development and promotion.

You see,  the conversations actually began when you started to add value.

How can you assist someone else achieve their objectives?

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Test of Leadership- Joining the immovables

The test of leadership is surviving and overcoming what average people run from.

It’s seeing opposition and standing firm right where you are. Executing no matter what you are faced with.

You trust the process.

Trees in particular remind me of leadership because they withstand all elements. They are most vulnerable during their initial growth stages but if they survive, WHEN they survive, you better watch out.

This is no different than you and I. When we start off in leadership roles it is easy to be swayed, confused at times, and even frustrated.

But the longer we stay planted, grow, learn in our roles….we become immovable.

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Depression? You don’t have to suffer alone

Usually a conversation or even witnessing an event inspires me to create, write, and make encouraging videos. But today I want to speak from the heart. Many people encounter difficulties  mentally during this time of the year. The weather changes, it is darker earlier, seasonal …

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