one minute with jay – Page 3 – Coach Julian Hill

Positive Daily Thoughts- One Minute with Jay

How to get your passion back- One Minute with Jay

When you are making positive improvements and then it suddenly feels like you hit a brick wall… and I mean hard.

This is a scary place to be because it’s like someone has deflated your balloon and you are back to square one. Back on the ground when you were flying high.

Here’s how to get your passion back: do it again. This may seem over simplistic but you get the energy to do the thing by doing the thing.

Passion is perseverance. So do it again. Do exactly what helped you to get results. The passion will resurface as you work through your setback.

And I believe this holds true for anything in your life as long as you love it.

The perfect example is the relationship with my mom. We are pretty close but it wasn’t always that way.

There were times where she didn’t understand my choices of girlfriends (neither did I but I will never admit that to her), hobbies, or even my profession.

This strained our relationship to the point where we didn’t speak for months. She’s stubborn and at that time…well genetics…you know? I had a little touch of that too.

But eventually I caved and we began to talk once a week for about 10 minutes. Over time that expanded until the relationship was repaired. We both had enough love remaining in our hearts to try again.

Maybe this is not your story but you have loss some passion towards your girlfriend, spouse, honey dip, boo thang.

I find that familiarity can also create distance in a relationship emotionally. Routine can make you less excited with seeing them everyday.

Especially when kids get involved. You know that as soon as you walk in from work you are on diaper duty or toy patrol.

With every other responsibility, you forget what brought you together…the love.

Maybe it’s time to take boo thang out on a date like you used too. Do it again.

Learning through problems

Learning through problems is a tough assignment. Many situations we encounter help to sidetrack us from purpose.

Sometimes we just don’t understand our situations or feel that somehow this is only happening to us. BUT a lack of understanding should not stop your progress or growth.

Consider that whatever you are facing is making and will make you stronger. Cliche? Yes. Truth? Oh yea. Just like weights, the heavier your problems get, the stronger you become.

That strength will allow you to eventually pick up more/do more/help lift someone else up….if you let it.

You cannot be a resource to anyone if you are not strong yourself. There is so much we can learn from what happens to us.

Stay tuned for my post tomorrow that will discuss what we can actually learn. I’m thinking I will cover 3 or more points about the purpose of problems.

Thinking your way better life- Better Pay

Thinking your way to a better life and better pay is possible.

I assume that if you are reading this that you are a human being (I hope so) and this gives you an advantage.

The advantage is to rationalize and create new ideas. Animals have to rely on instinct to survive and will never be anything more than what they currently are.

You on the other hand can develop and change your situation. Use the free resources that are at your fingertips to get moving.

Go to the library if nothing else for Pete’s sake and pick up a few books on whatever area you are trying to improve.

Just last night, I popped into the library and snagged a copy of The Intelligent Investor by Ben Graham.

Why?

Because I want to learn more on investment strategy and this book comes recommended by Warren Buffett. Buffett is possibly the greatest investor of all time!

It was a no brainer. Getting the knowledge is free.

There are no excuses to have less than what you want.

What resources can you make use of right away?

Helping others succeed creates your own success- One Minute with Jay

Help others succeed if you want to get something out of the deal. This may seem selfish. But when you really think about it….it isn’t selfish at all.

We are all co-dependent on each other to survive.

Teams are created to ensure the survival of an idea or mission. That’s why businesses have so many execs, managers, supervisors, secretaries etc. A team is necessary.

And we all want to win in some shape or form. So if you can help someone else win you can become a winner.

Think about business again as the perfect example. The businesses that thrive are the ones that provide the most value.
Value is given, we pay cash, and the business increases revenue.

If you want success provide more value to more people.

How can you provide value? Leave a comment below and let me know.

-Jay

Resumes that stand out- Pass the 30 Second Test- One Minute with Jay

Resumes that stand out typically pass a 30 second test. If you give your resume to an absolute stranger will they be able to figure out:

1. What type of job you are applying for?

2. What qualifications make you unique?

And the stranger has to be able to do this in 30 seconds or less. That’s about how long a recruiter or busy hiring manager will look at your resume.

Being an HR Manager myself and when we had to fill 10 to 15 entry level jobs I did not have the time to over analyze each sheet of paper.

I had to make quick decisions on whether to interview or not, while thumbing through sometimes hundreds of resumes.

And those were just the resumes that our ATS narrowed down. There is a technique for getting the ATS from passing over your qualifications as well.

Check out the video above and let me know if you have comments or how I can help you.

-Jay

Trust in the timing of your life- One Minute with Jay

Trust in the timing of your life. Your life my not look like someone else’s.

Your path may not look like your friend’s path or your neighbor’s path.

We all have our individual road to travel and it’s okay if it takes longer. I am learning this in my own life while trying to have a child with my wife. We have been trying for close to a year now and nothing has happened.

The doctors can’t explain it, they just keep saying to keep trying. Frustration is setting in but I know my path may not be similar to anyone around me.

If I get caught up in how easy it has been for others then I will never receive my own bundle of joy.

In the same regard you may be trying to give birth to something wonderful. A new business, new idea, new way of living but the process may be slow.

I’m here to tell you that it is okay for the movement to be slow, as long as you do not give up on yourself.

Trust the timing in your life is perfect, even if late by your standards. Your baby will come when it is time. #trustintheprocess

-Jay

Define Delayed Gratification- One Minute with Jay

As we define delayed gratification I immediately think about reaching financial goals. Jim Rohn speaks about a fundamental difference between the wealthy and the not so wealthy.

What is it?

The ability to delay gratification.

This is a key because you cannot just get a fortune overnight, or have the perfect salary, or the perfect body (zero percent body fat, baby oiled glistening abs that you can bounce quarters off of. Maybe I’m only talking for myself :)) It takes time, it is a process and the wealthy learn to set long term goals.

The strategy is planning for the long game. What will it take to save 10K, 20K, 50K? You may say to me “But hold on I don’t make alot of money Jay. I don’t know what type of checks you get but I’m on a fixed income. I have bills.” I hear you. So do I. But if you take your goal and break it up over 5 years it may suddenly become more manageable and easier to save towards it each paycheck.

Delayed gratification isn’t a forever thing, it’s temporary, it’s a building process, it creates high tolerance and patience in the process, it qualifies you and gives staying power (because you had to work for it, you won’t give up as easily in tough times).

Jay

Remove the obstacles- Use this- One Minute with Jay

Your creativity will be responsible to remove the obstacles you are facing.

This power called creativity flows through you all you have to do is tap in.

Now you may be thinking, “nooo I’m not even close to being creative. I’m not an artist, I can’t even draw stick figures man.”

But have you ever solved a problem that troubled you? I mean even a small one.

Of course you have! You solve problems everyday…that is creativity. And it will be this same resource, the same way of thinking that will remove whatever faces you.

You do not need to know how it will exactly happen, just know that it will through tapping into that imagination of yours.

Failure leads success- One Minute with Jay

My biggest failure or at least one of my biggest failures is why I believe that failure leads success. A pain point of my life is the lack of role modeling or mentoring I gave my little brother.

While we grew up in the same household I set the best example that I could, going to work while in high school, running my own grass cutting business and spending time trying to teach him right from wrong.

I tried to be a father figure, stand in the gap but he resented my advice that I would give.

I went to college and had to hear how he escalated from graffiti to worse crimes, eventually disappearing for a year. Then we received a call, “the call.” “Are you willing to accept a call from___?”

He was in jail.

I spent so time studying, working on campus, internships.

I instantly felt like I failed my little brother.

I could have spent more time with him, even if he didn’t want to hear my mouth. I could have encouraged him more, been an ear to help keep him from the streets.

Mind you I was only a kid myself, with my own baggage but I could have done more. This regret in part fuels my desire to mentor. I learned that sometimes the people that don’t want to be mentored are the one’s that need it the most.

Part of mission is to reach as many people as possible & break their negative thinking. What failures have created your success or are creating your success?