From Bondage to Unbound
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Read MoreThere are just some folks that if I see them coming down the hall, street, aisle, wherever, I will turn and walk in the opposite direction. I mean power walk right out of there. This is because you have to shield yourself from negative people.
People that are ALWAYS upset or complaining about something no matter how small, even after you try to make them realize the good in their situation…Yup…them. You cannot save them, if they do want to be saved.
You cannot force better on them or in some cases even have a rational conversation. This is unfortunate but it is so true.
Negative people will suck your energy, life, youth (or what’s left of it) and then move on to the next unsuspecting warm body like an adult mosquito in the middle of June. I avoid at all costs but if the person is someone that you cannot easily cut out of your life then there are some steps you can take to lessen the impact of the this persons’ energy.
Now this seems easier said than done but engagement is everything. What you engage in will determine what type of people you have around you. Whenever Negative Nancy or Sad Sam comes moping your way engage them less. You can do this by not getting excited when they tell you today’s new horror story.
Once Sad Sam realizes that you aren’t as into the conversation as you used to be he will have to move on. This leaves room for more positive buddies to meet you.
I’ve done this multiple times to weed out the energy drainers in my own life. Simply put, if you have been stuck in the same problems from 1997 I may not be the right friend for you. Sorry, life is too short.
2. Understanding their point of view
I find that a negative person’s view on most things is either based on being afraid of the worst or being afraid of not being loved. If this is the case then maybe you can minimize the negativity by reminding the person that what they are experiencing is fear. Which is natural but allowing it to control or stop you is not.
If you can find a common ground or point of reference this may give you enough to help refocus the other person’s perspective (even if it’s only temporarily).
Read MoreImproving self worth develops the ultimate confidence in yourself. This is not a matter of conceit or belittling those around you in order to feel superior.
It is a conviction that you will attract the right situations, people, circumstances because you are in the right head space.
Because you are aware of how valuable, how precious you are. Everyone cannot afford your price. Some people will not have the emotional maturity to be/interact/hang with you.
No maturity equals no currency, equals “boy bye” or “girl bye.” Once your standards match your self worth, then the magic of attraction can begin.
You attract what you are. Be what you want to attract.
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