Define Delayed Gratification- One Minute with Jay

As we define delayed gratification I immediately think about reaching financial goals. Jim Rohn speaks about a fundamental difference between the wealthy and the not so wealthy.

What is it?

The ability to delay gratification.

This is a key because you cannot just get a fortune overnight, or have the perfect salary, or the perfect body (zero percent body fat, baby oiled glistening abs that you can bounce quarters off of. Maybe I’m only talking for myself :)) It takes time, it is a process and the wealthy learn to set long term goals.

The strategy is planning for the long game. What will it take to save 10K, 20K, 50K? You may say to me “But hold on I don’t make alot of money Jay. I don’t know what type of checks you get but I’m on a fixed income. I have bills.” I hear you. So do I. But if you take your goal and break it up over 5 years it may suddenly become more manageable and easier to save towards it each paycheck.

Delayed gratification isn’t a forever thing, it’s temporary, it’s a building process, it creates high tolerance and patience in the process, it qualifies you and gives staying power (because you had to work for it, you won’t give up as easily in tough times).

Jay

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You can change your mind- You do not have to be unhappy

In this video Dr. Joe Dispenza discusses the why behind being unhappy and what can be done to change it. I really like this because he demonstrates that you can change your mind and you do not have to be unhappy.

There is a very interesting piece about how there is a refractory period.

Basically there is period where a mood changes into your temperament. If you stay attached to that emotion too long, it then changes from temperament into your actual personality.

One way to shorten this period is through meditation.

If you have been experiencing a bad mood for way too long, this is worth watching.

Let me know what you think.

Jay

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Remove the obstacles- Use this- One Minute with Jay

Your creativity will be responsible to remove the obstacles you are facing.

This power called creativity flows through you all you have to do is tap in.

Now you may be thinking, “nooo I’m not even close to being creative. I’m not an artist, I can’t even draw stick figures man.”

But have you ever solved a problem that troubled you? I mean even a small one.

Of course you have! You solve problems everyday…that is creativity. And it will be this same resource, the same way of thinking that will remove whatever faces you.

You do not need to know how it will exactly happen, just know that it will through tapping into that imagination of yours.

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Intrinsic vs Extrinsic Motivation- Don’t like the gym, Blame your brain

I will probably make a video (I love vids) for this at some point this week but if you are having difficulty working out it could be the way your brain is wired. Aka Intrinsic vs Extrinsic Motivation.

If you are more intrinsically motivated then you workout because it’s just something you find enjoyable. Now if you are wired on an extrinsic level that means you hit the gym just to avoid someone else punishing you. It could be a friend, nagging spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend. Simply you may feel like working out is forced.

So the key is finding an activity that feels less like a chore because our intrinsic friends workout more on average.

For example, I hate running. I always have even though I used to enjoy basketball. I hate the treadmill. So I avoided the elliptical too because I thought it was the same as that stupid treadmill (and a little girly too :)). But I gained 15 more pounds than I wanted and needed to shed it.

SOooooo I tried the elliptical. I found out it was less pressure on my knees and actually kind of fun because I like the swinging action you get with your arms. Three months later it is still my main source of cardio.

You just have to find the right activity for you and stop worrying about what everybody else is doing or what they are thinking. No one will make fun of you when you get that #revengebody.

~Jay

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Control your anger emotions- One Minute with Jay

Control your anger emotions through 3 simple tips: Breathe deeply and exhale through your mouth.   2. Forgive yourself for your triggers. I have some quick triggers myself but instead of feeling bad about these things I just accept myself. (Then you move forward in …

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Failure leads success- One Minute with Jay

My biggest failure or at least one of my biggest failures is why I believe that failure leads success. A pain point of my life is the lack of role modeling or mentoring I gave my little brother.

While we grew up in the same household I set the best example that I could, going to work while in high school, running my own grass cutting business and spending time trying to teach him right from wrong.

I tried to be a father figure, stand in the gap but he resented my advice that I would give.

I went to college and had to hear how he escalated from graffiti to worse crimes, eventually disappearing for a year. Then we received a call, “the call.” “Are you willing to accept a call from___?”

He was in jail.

I spent so time studying, working on campus, internships.

I instantly felt like I failed my little brother.

I could have spent more time with him, even if he didn’t want to hear my mouth. I could have encouraged him more, been an ear to help keep him from the streets.

Mind you I was only a kid myself, with my own baggage but I could have done more. This regret in part fuels my desire to mentor. I learned that sometimes the people that don’t want to be mentored are the one’s that need it the most.

Part of mission is to reach as many people as possible & break their negative thinking. What failures have created your success or are creating your success?

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