After an interesting 3 days this week here are my thoughts on how to deal with envy at work.
Some of your peers may begin to treat you differently because of your new success, maybe even a promotion. Sometimes you are starting a new job and have great qualifications that others (who have been in the job for a while) are just jealous about.
The jelly, as I will call them will even say good job or I am happy for you. But the facial expression does not match the words. You feel an icy chill from what they are saying.
Often the jelly are very insecure and even afraid for their own jobs. Your success means limited advancement for them.
This is a personal issue with them. Do not engage them when you get backhanded compliments. Limit what you speak about and keep it focused on positive work related topics. This will keep the jelly from having ammo to use against you.
It is not your job to figure out what is wrong with them. Try to be uplifting, showing your coworker that you are not the enemy.
And if they actually try to pick a verbal fight with you…I have gone as far as saying “I think the work you do is great and want to be apart of that. How can we resolve this??” This not only deflects their emotions/insecurities (which they trying to push on you) but de-escalates the whole situation. You can’t argue with someone who won’t argue.