How to get your passion back- One Minute with Jay

When you are making positive improvements and then it suddenly feels like you hit a brick wall… and I mean hard.

This is a scary place to be because it’s like someone has deflated your balloon and you are back to square one. Back on the ground when you were flying high.

Here’s how to get your passion back: do it again. This may seem over simplistic but you get the energy to do the thing by doing the thing.

Passion is perseverance. So do it again. Do exactly what helped you to get results. The passion will resurface as you work through your setback.

And I believe this holds true for anything in your life as long as you love it.

The perfect example is the relationship with my mom. We are pretty close but it wasn’t always that way.

There were times where she didn’t understand my choices of girlfriends (neither did I but I will never admit that to her), hobbies, or even my profession.

This strained our relationship to the point where we didn’t speak for months. She’s stubborn and at that time…well genetics…you know? I had a little touch of that too.

But eventually I caved and we began to talk once a week for about 10 minutes. Over time that expanded until the relationship was repaired. We both had enough love remaining in our hearts to try again.

Maybe this is not your story but you have loss some passion towards your girlfriend, spouse, honey dip, boo thang.

I find that familiarity can also create distance in a relationship emotionally. Routine can make you less excited with seeing them everyday.

Especially when kids get involved. You know that as soon as you walk in from work you are on diaper duty or toy patrol.

With every other responsibility, you forget what brought you together…the love.

Maybe it’s time to take boo thang out on a date like you used too. Do it again.

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Test of Leadership- Joining the immovables

The test of leadership is surviving and overcoming what average people run from.

It’s seeing opposition and standing firm right where you are. Executing no matter what you are faced with.

You trust the process.

Trees in particular remind me of leadership because they withstand all elements. They are most vulnerable during their initial growth stages but if they survive, WHEN they survive, you better watch out.

This is no different than you and I. When we start off in leadership roles it is easy to be swayed, confused at times, and even frustrated.

But the longer we stay planted, grow, learn in our roles….we become immovable.

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Don’t despise small beginnings- Built for Greatness

You may think that what you have in your possession is small. But I am here to tell you that it is not.  Don’t despise small beginnings.  What you have is not small, what you have is not insignificant, this is the building block for …

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Does Money Matter in Relationship

Does money matter in the relationship, relationships in general?

Yes it absolutely does. The number one cause of divorce do to some sort of financial problem. Sometimes the problem is a shortage of money, Sometimes divorce happens right after one spouse or if you can even imagine this both spouses get laid off at the same time.

If this makes you cringe then it’s time to talk to your helpmate.

Discuss the what if’s so you know where your partner stands. What do I mean? Will your partner stick by you if you lose your job and current lifestyle?

One of my ex girlfriend’s values were so out of wack we had to break up after my company was downsized.

She told me that getting laid off was my fault because I saw it coming and now she was upset. My guess is that she was angry that I couldn’t provide.

I admit, sometimes the writing is on the wall. Butttt I thought things would turn around if I worked harder.

Close but no cigar.

So that chapter had to come to an end.

The thing is I had no clue my girlfriend was so self-centered and did not care about me as a person or our relationship beyond my paycheck.

That’s why I definitely advocate for you to speak with your significant other as soon as possible when it comes to your financial values.

The last thing you want is to get into a pinch and realize after a few years that a piece of your relational foundation is unstable.

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i Statement Examples- Your words have power

Every I statement you make in your life has meaning and future consequences. Why? Your words have so much power. Some I statement examples are:

I am beautiful.

I cannot do this.

I am dumb.

I am not qualified.

I am intelligent.

This morning my mantra was “Jay regardless of what your current situation or obstacle looks like, you can and will overcome it.” I believe that I am a conquer.

I tell myself things like this on a regular basis as reminder of what I have and can accomplish. I learned through a friend of mine that everything I place an “i” in front of is a construction for my life.

Your words are constructing everything that you are, everything that you do. So be extremely careful in what you are telling yourself because you just may believe it.

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Men Health Questions- Why do I Avoid the Doctor?- Top Excuses

As promised, here is a list of 10 excuses men make to avoid the doctor. Check out the list here. I found this list while researching my last post, Men Health Questions- When should I get a checkup? My personal favorite is number 5. Money …

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