How to get your passion back- One Minute with Jay

When you are making positive improvements and then it suddenly feels like you hit a brick wall… and I mean hard.

This is a scary place to be because it’s like someone has deflated your balloon and you are back to square one. Back on the ground when you were flying high.

Here’s how to get your passion back: do it again. This may seem over simplistic but you get the energy to do the thing by doing the thing.

Passion is perseverance. So do it again. Do exactly what helped you to get results. The passion will resurface as you work through your setback.

And I believe this holds true for anything in your life as long as you love it.

The perfect example is the relationship with my mom. We are pretty close but it wasn’t always that way.

There were times where she didn’t understand my choices of girlfriends (neither did I but I will never admit that to her), hobbies, or even my profession.

This strained our relationship to the point where we didn’t speak for months. She’s stubborn and at that time…well genetics…you know? I had a little touch of that too.

But eventually I caved and we began to talk once a week for about 10 minutes. Over time that expanded until the relationship was repaired. We both had enough love remaining in our hearts to try again.

Maybe this is not your story but you have loss some passion towards your girlfriend, spouse, honey dip, boo thang.

I find that familiarity can also create distance in a relationship emotionally. Routine can make you less excited with seeing them everyday.

Especially when kids get involved. You know that as soon as you walk in from work you are on diaper duty or toy patrol.

With every other responsibility, you forget what brought you together…the love.

Maybe it’s time to take boo thang out on a date like you used too. Do it again.

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Your habits are who you are- One Minute with Jay

Your habits are who you are. Your personality is made up of what you do regularly. If you show me what you do every day then I can show you who you are as a person.

The people you hang around, your friends, your family, your acquaintances, all make up or at least influence the person you will be. Yes! But I’d like to go a little bit deeper…

What type of people do you hang around? Are these people considered mentors to you? Are they teachers? Do you actually value their advice? For me it’s less about the people you hang around and more about the quality of people you hang around/the purpose of you hanging around them.

When you spend time with these mentors or teachers do you spend more time asking for advice or taking advice? Are you seeking their advice? Or do you spend more time just talking about yourself, your problems and your issues?

A leader goes through a few different phases one being the phase of not wanting any advice, then the phase of wanting advice but not seeking it, followed by seeking advice but not listening to it, and finally heeding the advice of wise individuals.

I can easily tell where you fall on the leadership scale simply by observing while someone is trying to teach or mentor you.

Just something to think about 🙂

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Define Follow Through- One Minute with Jay

Define Follow Through When you tell yourself that you going to do something, like finally go to the gym this week and then push it off until you say: “Mmmhmmm, maybe next week. The weather will be better by then.” What you are really saying …

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The Law of Sacrifice- One Minute with Jay


The law of sacrifice states that something of lesser value must leave in order for something of greater value to take its place.

What is difficult is reassigning the value of a situation, circumstance or person in your life.

I have parted ways with many former friends in the past. Not because they were bad people but they were not working towards the same things I wanted.

When I was trying to save money to purchase a house, they were looking for the next party or the next girl to sleep with.

That was not a part of my lifestyle. So I had to let them go. Well I wanted to but they knew all about me: the schools I went to, my mom, my sister, my favorite food from childhood, and listened to the same music as me.

I couldn’t just cut them off, right? There is just too much history. They accept me for me.

So instead I focused more on the things I wanted out of life. Eventually my “friends” stopped calling me.

I couldn’t hang out everyday because I worked long hours, I couldn’t hangout on the weekends because I was saving.

A party wasn’t worth delaying my future.

What is sacrifice to you?

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Career Management Development


Career management development begins with adding value in very specific way.

Many of us trying to climb the proverbial success ladder think that we have to constantly compete. But it’s not about competition at all.

Fighting for your next promotion or a new job is all about being a complementary piece to your boss or team.

Oh, I recently spoke with a friend that told me he hates the word boss. So let me rephrase that: be a complementary piece to your manager, director, principal, team lead, or your actual team if you happen to be the manager.

Add value by helping them achieve their goals. Become accustomed to underpromising and over delivering (giving way more than expected, even when you feel like it won’t be reciprocated). This will only help you achieve yours in the process.

Once you prove that you are interested and able to help (by results people, the results are proof) then you can begin to further the conversation about development and promotion.

You see,  the conversations actually began when you started to add value.

How can you assist someone else achieve their objectives?

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