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Signs that your Relationship is Healthy
- You argue but there is way more cooperation to make the dynamic between the two of you work when you really sit and consider it all.
- The have separate ambitions goals which you help each other achieve AND you have collective goals to grow yourselves as a couple or family.
- There is trust. Like real trust. If he is going out with the boys you know that’s where he really is. If she tells you that he is just a friend, you don’t stalk his Facebook looking for incriminating pictures…or go through her phone.
- You can speak your mind freely without judgement. Some people avoid speaking just because of how their feelings were shot down in past relationships. If you can’t express yourself, your relationship may not be a safe harbor.
- When you do argue you are able to let it roll off your back. You understand that one disagreement isn’t as important as being a unit. SO you cool off (quickly) and figure out how to move forward.
- I guess #5 ties into compromising. No relationship is successful without a lot of compromise. On both sides. I no longer fight with my wife about the color of the curtains in the kitchen if she wants silver drapes…okay fine. Just don’t put them in my man cave (it’s more of an empty room with books but it’s MY empty room).
- Space is given when needed. I personally don’t believe in “breaks.” If you need a break then you might as well move on if you’re with me. But I do believe in giving time to so the other person can re-energize and do some self caring. This includes going to the gym separately when needed, reading, meditation, shopping alone.
- There is equality. I’m a pretty opinionated/focused person. But I can’t afford to treat anyone without respect and not listen to other opinions.
- You give. That’s it. I used to give, when I was dating in order to influence the girl or demonstrate that the type of salary I have. I would give really expensive gifts…so you know I’m not broke or cheap. Now I give not expecting anything in return. It’s just fun to give. I find that giving cannot exist where there is no love.
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Everyone is saying new year, new me. Cut it out. Make sure you plan in the new year. Have a plan and work that baby for the whole year.
You do not need to be a whole new person to have success in this new year. You do need to make a plan that is easy to follow and do no matter how you feel.
Feelings get in the way of success. “Oh I don’t feel like waking up early.” “I don’t feel like complimenting my spouse.” “I don’t feel like reaching daily to find new prospects for my business.”
It’s not about what you feel but what are you doing when your mood is the exact opposite of what you want. Do you give in? Or do you remind yourself of the alternative, which is to let another year go by without being any closer to what you want.
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You may ask yourself why did he not finish the heading “Out with the past in with the?” In with the what? The New? Nope.
In with dream. I cannot say in with new because your dream is nothing new. It has always been inside of you, just buried under a bunch of stuff.
Stuff like: other people’s expectations, family expectations, what your wife agrees with, what hubby thinks, what your friends think is acceptable.
So much so that you forgot to dream. Forgot who you are and why you were placed here. Maybe you never really thought about it at all because you always followed what you saw other people around you do.
I’m not trying to beat you up. I want you to Dream again or dream for the first time.
Where can you have the most impact? What the things you are good at?
Do you have some ideas in your head? Good. Now combine them. How can you use what comes the most easily to you to affect the most people in a positive way?
This is the first step to finding out who you really are.
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